The Kintsugi Girl


Hi I’m Emma-Jane, AKA The Kintsugi Girl. Welcome to my blog!

(c) The Kintsugi GirlSo, why The Kintsugi Girl?  If you  haven’t already come across this beautiful concept, Kintsugi is the Japanese art of fixing broken pottery with precious metals.  Resin, mixed with powdered gold or silver, highlights the cracks. The damage is seen as part of the history of the object – not something to be hidden but something to be celebrated.  The object is considered all the more beautiful for its defects. All the more precious.  It’s the same with us. We all have our scars and our problems and our flaws. We, and the world we live in, are far from perfect.  This blog is my way of dealing with my life-changing diagnosis of Stage IV breast cancermetastatic or secondary breast cancer, the kind that is officially ‘not-a-good-thing’!  It’s about finding the happy, embracing the joy, celebrating life and all it has to offer and finding beauty, even in the broken. Oh, and it’s about Haikus too… a little poem a day (or not!), my life summed up in three lines, 17 syllables….

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Half-Arsed Haiku – Tue 14 June, 2016


Image courtesy of VictorianLady via Pixabay

Since my cancer diagnosis, I  no longer save things ‘for best’ or for ‘rainy days’. I wear my favourite frocks whenever I can, scuff up my nicest shoes. I don’t worry about writing in lovely notebooks that I kept blank for years, afraid to spoil. I use those posh cosmetics and toiletries rather than hiding them away in drawers. I don’t worry about waiting for special occasions to use my ‘good’ glasses or crockery… They may break, so what, it is, after all, just ‘stuff’. I have an informal bucket (or fuckit list as I like to call it) with things I want to do, places I want to see – from the small and insignificant and ordinary to the big, blue sky once-in-a-lifetime deals. The small things are still important though. I try to do things now, while I can, when I can, when chemo allows. Because what if you hold off on using or doing the things you love, waiting for the right time and the right time never comes or it comes and you are in no fit state to make the most of it? What then? Life is too short and too precious. What are you waiting for?!! Live in the present, live in the now…

On Not Saving The Best Till Last:

use these things you keep
‘for best’. For when are you both
at yours if not now